You have to be willing to Walk Away... A man doesn't neglect a woman he knows has many options other than him. He gets activated instead and he pursues her. This is a vibe you can carry with you for the lifetime of the relationship.
Nature abhors a vacuum. If you dig a hole in your yard, over time it will fill itself back up with soil. If you create space for a man, he will soon be putting his shirt in the drawer, and his watch and cuff links in the bedside table… and you will fondly remember the day you cleared all this space in anticipation of his arrival.