Attracting and Keeping a Man with ONE Confident Step…
Here’s a quick and easy answer to attracting and keeping a man…You have to be willing to walk away. This in my opinion especially if you and the man are over the age of 40!
Walking away can be done MENTALLY and PHYSICALLY.
Please do keep reading, but when you have time, listen to my Podcast Episode #17: How to Walk Away From a Man, Without Really Leaving.
Walking away is not a manipulative tactic. However it is one of the most powerful ways to keep a man interested and attracted.
Yet this concept elicits fear in most women. We believe walking away means the man might be done for good and the relationship is over. Yet something as simple as turning and facing your window in the car ride home is a type of ‘walking away.’
Silence, offering space, not searching for solutions and just listening offer necessary ‘cave time’ to a man. He needs this time and space to ‘figure things out’ and to miss you.
I’m here to tell you that by ‘walking away’ there’s a good chance he will follow you, or even begin to chase you. Masculine energy wants to solve problems and is very curious. When you turn your back or walk away, you allow space for the BOTH of you to sort out your feelings, AND you gain some much needed calm to process your feelings.
This is not about flaunting your ability to walk away, or threatening to leave. Walking away doesn’t necessarily mean leaving the relationship and breaking things off with your man – although giving off the vibe that you have lots and lots of options (which you do) helps matters. YET…
This isn’t about playing games… This is about expressing your authentic self as a high quality woman, who if she MUST boldly move on, she can, she will and she has options.
Confidence is extremely attractive. I suggest you get familiar with the energetic mindset that you will not only land on your feet and have options, but that you desire a loving relationship with kindness, acceptance, honesty, affection, empathy and growth.
Having the vibe that you can ‘walk away’ isn’t about making your man feel jealous that there’s another guy, or other guys are sniffing around.
A man can tell very quickly if you’re trying to make him jealous, and manipulation or playing games is not part of my coaching practice.
This is about the natural and effortless truth that a woman is capable of attracting oodles of men at any age. This is the power of Quantum Dating. (How does that work? Get my NEW MAN MANIFESTO Program Now.)
Being willing to walk away means your man will sense that you are a high quality woman, and that he is not your only option. This creates a shift in his masculine energy to covet and claim you. You will also need to keep up with your FEMM TOOLS: warmth, listening, sharing positive feelings and boundaries, not just preferences.
You are not desperate. He can be replaced…
If you are over the age of 40 and desire commitment and marriage, I have found 90% of my clients had to walk away from the man, MYSELF INCLUDED, to become fully committed.
I go deeper into this with the ABCs program (below).
HOWEVER, if you are NEW to Dating, Femm Tools For Dating is a MUST HAVE. Femm Tools for Dating allows you to set the pacing, learn a vital protocol for attracting high quality men and letting go of time waster and SO MUCH MORE.
Men can be very lazy and get comfortable having you come to their house, help them to decorate, travel with them and have all the benefits of marriage with none of the responsibility.
You may be unsure if you are ‘just dating’ or committed.
You may be waiting on a ring past a year.
You may be wearing an engagement ring for years.
In my humble opinion, these scenarios will involve ‘walking away’ from the man on some level.
You can let a man know: I want to be a wife, not just a girlfriend. I feel so good wrapped up in your warmth and spending time together feels amazing. I don’t want to put pressure on you or the relationship, but what can I say, I want to be a wife.
In the ABCs Program, I talk about how Jeff (my now husband) laughed in my face when I told him this.
I made plenty of excuses for his behavior. From losing his parents to cancer within a year of each other, to losing his job and rebuilding his life – I wanted to ‘understand’ why he didn’t want to be married.
But none of that is my problem.
I wanted to be a wife and I would either continue making his life comfortable for HIM, or I would get on creating the life I desired. SO I walked away!
In the ABCs you can learn more about how I turned this all around, and in “500 Ways” I share many more scripts on commitment and engagements.
Here’s the flip-side…
In a relationship any of us, at any time can be replaced, dismissed, abandoned, and kicked to the curb. It happens to beautiful, smart, and loving women everyday…
That is why this one tool is SO IMPORTANT FOR WOMEN… I want you to have zero doubts about your man leaving. I want you to know that you have your man’s heart all tied up to yours.
Why is this so important?
Because women tend to lose themselves in the relationship.
We over-function and wear the pants for everyone in the family.
We hide our true feelings and tell lies about how we really feel, right through our smiling faces.
We push a man away when we hide our true feelings and self.
We push a man away when we behave as if he is our only option.
How can you walk away from a man that you love more than yourself?
It is vital that you love every part of yourself – as this powerful vibe goes hand-in-hand with knowing you can ‘Walk Away’. When you LOVE all of you, you radiate – confidence, self-respect, happiness, and dignity… yet what about how you feel on the inside?
Most people will tell you in a quick second that they love themselves. Yet, do you really?
I’m not talking mani-pedi’s… your daily gym visit…or buying yourself new shoes… although those are nice things to do for yourself.
This is about loving all parts of yourself.
Every nasty thought and bad thing you think about your beautiful and wonderful self, you can learn to embrace instead. (In my VIP Library, you get a Nasty Voice eBook, with an Unzipped purchase or ABCs program.)
Most women I coach need a lot of help loving themselves in the beginning, especially when it comes to embracing their ‘Nasty Voice’, and worry not, I can show you how to turn this around. (Click here for more.)
You see, Loving Yourself is the fastest way to activate a man’s masculinity and demonstrative love.
He can’t love and appreciate you fully, until you do.
Please note, this is not a one and done practice. Loving and accepting yourself is an on-going practice.
You Can Become The Great Love of His Life!
In effect: When You Connect With His Heart in a Special Way, Like No Other Woman Has, No Matter What, He Cannot Walk Away From You.
So how do you effectively change your vibe, not play games, not send the signal you’re no longer interested in him, yet create enough distance that he is inspired to pursue you?
This work begins and ends with How You Feel…
When you have the knowledge that you can walk away from the relationship should it become undesirable to you, this vibe gives you optimum chances for success in the relationship.
It shifts your focus from this man being your one and only option.
It changes your vibe from needy, to confident, sexy, and secure.
A man doesn’t neglect a woman he knows has many options other than him. He gets activated instead and he pursues her. This is a vibe you can carry with you for the lifetime of the relationship.
In my coaching practice, I’ve seen many bad boys clean up their act once a woman establishes this vibe.
To create this fearless vibe of Walking Away, it must be authentic and organic, and in addition to loving all of yourself (especially your thoughts!) you will want to fill your life up with things you enjoy, and put your focus onto your own life.
It’s all about You, You, You!
You will instantly become more of the woman your man fell in love with in the first place. Having your own life will give him the space required for him to pursue you.
You will activate his natural sense of curiosity about you, and soon, he will begin to pursue you and want to know more about you and your life.
*Remember curiosity gets activated when there is a gap in knowledge. When your man doesn’t know everything about you, he finds this enticing.
This means practice silence, offering space, choosing your words carefully, unfolding instead of controlling – and so many things I teach in my programs.
Instead of hiding your feelings, and putting all of your energy and thoughts into your man’s life,
I want you to find yourself, and get back into your lively spirit, from perhaps years ago…
This is often the spirit of your youth… back when you would take an impromptu weekend road trip by yourself, or drop in on a yoga or dance class, or make a new friend while shopping in a store.
Rediscover that girl inside of you who lived for herself, the girl who always wanted to learn how to paint, tile a floor, run a race, restore a piece of furniture, play the guitar, or enhance her education with college courses, or learn a new skill.
Think of all the projects and things you have always wanted to do, yet have never started or completed them. Did your relationship somehow become your focus instead? Did the fear of failure stop you? Relative ‘failure’ whether it is a relationship or a new task is part of the deal. Inspire yourself to learn new tools, fail and try, try again.
If you can scale back on the time you are investing in your man, and invest this time into yourself, he will relax with the focus OFF of him.
You will relax too, and this will bring your man closer and keep him interested and coming back for more, and more, and more of wonderful Y-O-U.
The relationship is guaranteed to improve because you’ll be happier no longer stuffing yourself down, and he will be at his happiest when he is in his masculine energy and given the space to pursue a confident, alluring, and interesting woman like Yourself.
Having the vibe that you can Walk Away is just ONE way you can inspire your man to be closer to you and your heart… so close that he won’t ever question turning away from you and your love.
If you need to know what to say to a man, consider my 2-Day Video Class & “500 Ways to Talk to a Man” ebook. “500 Ways” is the perfect starting place.
If you are NEW to dating, look into FEMM Tools for Dating.
If you enjoy practicing manifestation tools, check out New Man Manifesto.
With on-going learning, you will receive all the secrets and tools that will have you and your relationship running at its best, and have you feeling better, secure, and more loving and close than you have in years… or perhaps ever!