Building a Happy Relationship When One Partner Has Anger or Strong Temperament
Dear Diamond Girl,
When a man (or Masculine Energy) gets angry, the anger itself isn’t the real issue.
What matters is how the anger is expressed, how long it lingers, how quickly it escalates, and whether it can be repaired.
This is known as distress tolerance.
If you’re with someone whose distress skyrockets when things don’t go his way—or who hears one small comment and turns it into conflict—you know how exhausting and destabilizing this can feel.
Your nervous system stays on edge, and everyday moments become emotionally costly.
This isn’t limited to romantic relationships.
Anyone who becomes dramatic, reactive, or shut down instead of calmly problem-solving can create this dynamic.
And yes—on occasion, you may be the one who gets overwhelmed.
But when one person consistently becomes angry while the other walks on eggshells, the pattern takes a toll.
That’s why on January 13, I’m kicking off The Angry Man Blueprint
This course is created for women who feel overwhelmed, shut down, anxious, or stuck in fight-or-flight around a man who becomes easily angry or withdrawn.
Many women tell me:
“Every time he gets upset, I end up feeling small or on edge. If I try to help, he gets angrier. If I say nothing, he pouts all day.”
This isn’t random.
And it’s not your imagination.
💎 Bonus Insight: Why Pulling Back Actually Creates Repair
A person with low distress tolerance doesn’t experience repair attempts as connection, they experience them as pressure.
Urgency registers in their nervous system as a threat.
Urgency is felt as Masculine Energy – so in theory you’re challenging his Masculine Energy.
When they feel cornered, their instinct isn’t to engage—it’s to withdraw or get angrier, in order to regulate.
Here’s the shift most women miss:
When you remove urgency, you:
- Lower their emotional overload
- Stop becoming the “source” of distress
- Protect your own dignity and nervous system
This isn’t avoidance.
It’s emotional leadership.
The feminine-energy shift is understanding that pause creates safety—and safety is what makes real repair possible.
Often, what keeps this cycle going isn’t just his anger, it’s not knowing what kind of anger you’re dealing with, or how your responses may unknowingly be feeding the pattern.
The Angry Man Blueprint will show you:
- How to distinguish emotional anger, temperament, manipulation, and abusive cycles
- How to stop escalating the pattern without over-explaining or collapsing
- How to stay grounded, Feminine, and self-protective
- How to see clearly instead of guessing
- You’ll make positive progress and get results
Because how you respond matters, but only when it’s rooted in awareness.
The key Feminine Energy shift:
You’re not abandoning the issue.
You’re pausing it until regulation is possible.
You may ignore, deflect or express a feeling statement when it feels right.
One sentence is enough:
“I care about us. Let’s pause and revisit this when it’s calmer.”
Then silence.
Silence is regulation.
This is a 4-class live course with Q&A, featuring world-class experts including:
- Bill Eddy
- Lundy Bancroft
- Bob Grant
- Matthew McMillan
This course will give you wisdom you’ll carry for life.
You deserve clarity.
You deserve emotional safety.
You deserve to know when to lean in—and when to step back with confidence.
I would love to walk this journey with you. 💖
👉 Join The Angry Man Blueprint now and be ready for our January 13 kickoff.
Lots of love,
Adrienne 💗