I was shocked by his response…
Dear Diamond Girl,
In my most recent video, I dive into a topic that’s close to my heart: the delicate balance of communication and respect in relationships. I also share a brief review of the reality show, “The Baldwins,” and how a loving and well-meaning wife, Hilaria, is pushing her husband Alec Baldwin away with her concerns & beliefs instead of listening to his words and feelings. Watch a short reel here and the full video here.
I was tempted to put my dreams aside…
As Jeff and I embark on the adventure of house hunting post-fire, I found myself excitedly sharing ideas about our dream home. However, each time I would mention a vision or a possibility, I noticed Jeff’s reaction—a frown, a heavy sigh, or a dismissive comment. It struck me that while I was sharing my dreams, I felt a wall go up instead of the supportive partnership I had hoped for.
I found myself emotionally shifting from: heartbroken to angry, to a strong desire to run out of the room crying, to trying to fix him.
I also considered setting my dreams aside and just doing whatever he wanted – in order to keep the peace.
🥩We are BOTH in emotionally raw places, and now more than ever I am in need of my Parfait Method training that I’m teaching TOMORROW in my Feminine Energy Reset & Refresh!
What is the Parfait Method?
The Parfait Method is a delicious approach to managing and finding your CORE feelings – so a man truly hears your heart. There are other perks too, but this is the short version!
After working with numerous clients (and analyzing myself, and anyone who’d let me observe their relationship patterns!), I noticed how emotions are stacked in layers much like a parfait.
The top emotions are what we feel in the most pure and raw form and tends to push a person away or create turmoil. Beneath the layers, it’s the core emotion(s) that captivates a man’s heart and ears.
It is your ‘heart of hearts’ that a human responds to and finds irresistible – even the sternest of bulldogs has great difficulty turning away an authentic open heart.
Humans respond to warm, open, raw in the center emotion. We want truth, purity and authenticity, not fluffy whipped topping from an automatic can.
Your ‘fight or flight’ emotions are the whipped topping, and your juicy delicious truth is often several layers below.
I teach you how to find your truth – so your man, and everyone truly hears your heart
It’s not too late to join my🌺Feminine Energy Reset & Refresh Training.🌺 The Parfait Method is Lesson 2 and it’s being taught LIVE this Tuesday 3/25/2025 at 10am PT, 1pm ET.
You can access the recordings for Lesson One and all future trainings in your dashboard anytime, as well as your carefully crafted WORKBOOK! You also get a 30-day pass to my PRIVATE coaching community! DON’T MISS OUT!
This brings me to how I used my powerful Parfait Method tool with Jeff, and how you can navigate a similar type of situation. In Training Two (and in the workbook) I’ll go deeper in how you can reveal your core emotion. (Again, that’s happening 3/25/2025 and recordings will be available as long as there’s an internet!)
Here’s the script I used with my husband:
My core emotion was fear.
I’m feeling really scared right now. I’ve noticed some body language and non-verbals that are telling me my ideas aren’t welcomed. Is that true? Can you help me understand what’s going on?
At first Jeff denied he was reacting, and I sat with my 6-second rule (found here).
Then Jeff continued to speak. He asked if I wanted him to be a robot, and sarcastically apologized for not speaking perfectly – just the way I needed him to be. (Did I mention we are in emotionally raw places?!)
Again, I scanned through my Parfait for my core, and used my 6-seconds to mindfully breathe and calm my body.
I hit repeat: “I feel really scared. I don’t want to share my hopes and dreams if now isn’t a good time. I want to feel safe and seen. What do you think?”
Jeff assured me my feelings were welcomed, then admitted he felt burned out and didn’t know how to respond or what to say.
And so, I accepted his ‘no.’
I then called a good friend and we spoke for over an hour. I found great peace and clarity.🧘
I later called my mom, and got confused all over again 🤪but had a good loving chat.
I have decided to give the topic a rest until Jeff comes to ME.
Meanwhile I am finding my truth, my ‘heart of hearts’ and keeping it all to myself.
Right now that is the safest and most loving thing I can do for myself and others. (Although I DO appreciate YOU listening!)
I shared more about the experience in this video – and if you wish to travel down the Parfait with me tomorrow, here’s the link to join.✨I would cherish your company and attendance as this is a chance for us to grow together.
With love and gratitude,
