A lot of communication between a man and woman takes place while riding together in the car.
In this newsletter I will share helpful scripting that will bring you and your man closer, strengthen your relationship, keep you in your Feminine Energy, and bypass arguments in the car.
Directions & Shortcuts
Did you know that women are better at remembering how to get somewhere than men? Of course you did! This dates back to the days of being hunter-gatherers. Women were the gatherers, and contributed to more than 70% of the food consumed by the group.
Our sister’s from the past knew how to find their way across distant landscapes to locate fruit trees, wild growing plants, to turn left at the willow tree, and turn right at the wild flowers, and then back home to our own gardens because we learned to remember landmarks.
I guess I didn’t need to tell you women excel at memory tests over men?
So when you are in the car with your man, and you’re running 20 minutes behind schedule for the show – and you KNOW if he makes a LEFT at this intersection it will shave off time – What Do You Do?
Here is the easy answer: Lean back and be the girl in the relationship! Receive, and let him do all the thinking, solving and planning. You simply sit back and enjoy the ride.
I believe to keep a relationship happy and humming…
…it’s especially important when the man is doing the driving to let him make the travel decisions the best way he knows how.
Being on time is not worth challenging his male energy or having an argument.
However, if you must speak up, and lean forward, here’s a good way to do so:
I’m feeling so excited about the show tonight, yet I don’t want to be too late. I know of a shortcut to get there. What do you think?
Then… let the man decide if he’s interested in knowing the shortcut, or if he wants to do it his way. Again, if he is driving the car it is best to lean back and let him be the one in control.
LOVE BONUS! If he is a cautious driver, and does things like puts his hand on you when he has to break suddenly… you can tell him, “I always feel so safe with you behind the wheel. I feel like your precious cargo.” And smile and giggle.
I can assure you that your man will LOVE hearing this Feeling Statement from you, and will be inspired to treat you like the Goddess you are!
But what if the man you are with isn’t a safe driver? What if he has road rage, or is speeding, and you don’t feel safe and he won’t slow down!
What if you are choking down your anxiety, about to wet your pants, and you man is on an angry power trip?
Your Safety Comes First – Never Forget That.
If your man is speeding and you feel unsafe – tell him how you feel.“My stomach is in knots right now, I feel scared going this speed. Can you please slow down?”
My guy was once speeding in the rain on the highway, and we were skidding, and hydroplaning all over the place. I am already a nervous traveler, and I ended up holding my feelings in until I was begging and crying for him to slow down.
He was on a power trip and told me to “calm down and take a nerve pill”.
When we pulled off the highway for a bathroom break, I calmed down, and called a friend of mine to come get me. I refused to get back in the car with my guy for more sadistic torture.
Right there in the McDonald’s parking lot, I firmly put my boundaries into place.
I let my guy know, “I need a man who understands I need to feel safe in a car.”
He assured me that he was the man for the job and apologized profusely. He admitted he got lost in the pace of the other drivers and just wanted to hurry up and get us to our location.
I told my man, “I’d like to take our time, hold hands and feel good being together. What do you think?”
He offered me french fries, and a kiss to seal the deal.
My man and I turned a corner on our relationship that trip, and felt closer than we had in a long time.
When you set a boundary with a man, your value in his eyes goes up.
He knows you won’t endure just any ol’ treatment, and he knows you will walk away. This usually inspires a man to treat you like the Goddess you are…and more!
Always in love,